Sunday, September 2, 2012

That "ah-ha" moment...

     I was just remembering back when Beyonce' was about 3 or 4 years old and we were sitting at the kitchen table.  Beyonce' was looking at her hands, she started turning her hands over looking at the tops and then the palms and then the tops again, she did this several times and then in a panicked voice said "Mom, I'm brown!"  It was a really cute and tender moment, but also a nice realization to me that young children don't come into the world seeing color.  Wouldn't it be great if  we could all take a lesson from them!
     Of course that began a series of questions as to why mommy is white and Beyonce' is brown.  The conversations still continue to this day about Beyonce's beautiful skin color.  Beyonce' was bothered by being the only "brown" child in our family, so we knew we should change that, if we could.  Just talking about things, however well intentioned, doesn't always change the way our children feel about themselves.  We didn't want her to feel like there was anything wrong with her color, so when the next opportunity presented itself (and the opportunity after that!), we added more "brown" children to our family and Beyonce' loves it!  We love it!  Our family is very diverse and it is wonderful, we wouldn't change it for anything in the world!


  1. My 11 year old "brown baby" thinks he is that way because he loves chocolate so much. He thinks everyone else in the family must really like white chocolate!